As I’ve continued to read through WTEWYE, I have been amazed at the number of things the author has found that pregnant women need to be wary of. I’ve titled this blog post “Things that go bump in the night” as we take a tongue-in-cheek look at all the things you need to add to your list of worries while you’re pregnant. Here are just a few:
- The Superwoman syndrome: getting rest during pregnancy is far more important than getting things done. (Agreed, but not all of us have that luxury)
- Make sure you have a gradual, steady weight gain (sorry, none of my pregnancies fit the bill–though my diet was consistent from week to week, I gained in fits and starts)
- Remove temptations from your house! No cake mixes in your cupboard or white bread in the bread box. (There are lots of healthy reasons for not routinely eating these things, but do we really need one more food item to worry about? Killer cake mixes?)
- Make sure your house can breathe–don’t caulk all the drafty areas! This is intended to cut your risk of indoor air pollution. Ladies, start pulling the insulation out of the walls–oops, not a good idea–you might inhale fiberglass particles.
- There is no way to totally eliminate indoor air pollution. The author states that everything around you–furniture, paint, paneling, carpets, etc., can give off invisible fumes. She does admit that there’s no evidence that typical levels are harmful, but you will be more comfortable if you’re doing something to reduce invisible indoor air pollution. Her suggestion, filling the house with plants, is an aesthetically appealing one. However, it’s likely to instill panic and stress into women like me, who have black thumbs when it comes to keeping plants alive.
- Noise pollution. The author admits it’s not known how–or if–this affects the fetus. But, hey–you don’t have enough to keep your mind occupied while pregnant, so add this to the list!
- Parasites and bacteria in your food. Oh no, did you undercook that soft-boiled egg? Live in fear of your fetus contracting salmonella. . .
- Your growing belly will make you more accident-prone. The author encourages shunning high heels, “sloppy slippers” and thongs, believing they will make you more likely to twist your ankles or fall. On the same note, you are advised to install “grab bars” in your bathtub to assist you in getting in and out of the shower, and not to walk on slippery floors with your stocking feet. Perhaps a walker might be in order? On second thought, why risk it? Order that spiffy wheelchair you’ve been admiring!
- Nipple stimulation–careful, without medical supervision this could cause your body to release dangerous levels of oxytocin, which could lead to trouble. Don’t try this unless your medical practitioner advises it. Hmm. . .perhaps I should speak to my doctor about supervising my lovemaking during pregnancy–perhaps with a fetal monitor to ensure the baby is not being stressed?
- Hot, dry air. We are told that this can cause breathing problems and respiratory ailments, so a humidifier is in order. But wait. . .too much humidity can encourage growth of molds on furniture and plants! Oh, dear–I think I’ll need to quit my job to stay at home and monitor the temperature and humidity in my house.
- Swim caps: Believe it or not, this extremely risky piece of attire is best avoided because having your head wrapped in latex could cause your body to overheat enough to fry your fetus.
- Emergency delivery if you’re alone. This is really laughable. Ladies, if you find yourself about to give birth unexpectedly, you are directed to 1. Keep calm; 2. Find a neighbor to help (right, I’m going to leave my home to search for help, with the baby crowning); 3. Start panting (this is guaranteed to help you stay calm); 4. Wash your hands and the vaginal area (good advice! We wouldn’t want any of the germs from down there to contaminate the baby. Make sure you don’t touch the “sterile field”); 5. Spread some clean towels, newspaper, or sheets on the floor and LIE DOWN to await help. (Whatever you do, don’t try to birth your baby in an upright position–lie down and do the best you can to make do without a hospital birthing bed and stirrups. Perhaps you could lie on your back and place your feet up on a chair, to simulate being in stirrups.)

You can never be too careful!
I have a better idea than all of the above suggestions. I suggest we bring back the old Stryker frames for expectant mothers. Women could be placed in the frame, in hermetically sealed rooms with air purifiers, beginning with their first positive pregnancy test. Nurses would be present to monitor them and their babies, perform range of motion on their arms and legs, and turn the bed periodically. Their food could be strictly monitored and tested for every possible hazard or contaminant. Loved ones could view the expectant mother through a window and communicate via an intercom system. Wouldn’t this be a much safer way to bring babies into the world?



Don’t forget to avoid spicy foods! Remember, your baby can taste the foods you eat… in the amniotic fluid… or something, okay let’s skip over the mechanism, and if they tasted spicy food! Um! *mumble mumble mumble* And that would be bad!
Actually, I don’t remember if this advice is in WTEWYE, but I’ve read it all over the damn place other than there. Seriously, women aren’t already getting policed on what they eat enough, without claiming that flavours can be harmful?
The wheelchairs item made me laugh out loud by the way. Thanks again!
Just picture your poor baby swimming in hot sauce!
Oh, Thank you so much for the laugh! I was an avid WTEWYE reader with my first- I couldn’t read it with my second baby- who has time to worry about all of that?!
Nipple stimulation: she’s forgetting a very basic note on physiology of the uterus. These pesky oxytocin receptors are always present and could be stimulated at any time. However, the communications between individual cells to cause coordinated contractions resulting in active labor and birth aren’t present until several other events take place usually late in pregnancy.
Very true–we don’t even understand all the physiological factors that have to be in place to trigger labor. It certainly would seem prudent to avoid nipple stimulation if you’d had premature births before, but the average woman isn’t going to suffer any harmful effects from it.
OMG!!! I swam almost every day of my pregnancy WEARING A CAP!!! thank God my baby was not fried!!!…. though I almost cook him by giving birth in hot water!! (because that felt sooo god to me)
You are very, very lucky that your baby wasn’t permanently damaged. (NOT)
This is hillarious! I can’t help but wonder when soceity lost all common sense.
I think it’s a combination of good intentions–we want to have the best possible outcomes–mixed with unrealistic expectations. There is no possible way we can eliminate every potential complication/risk of pregnancy. So let’s use common sense, take reasonable precautions, and enjoy pregnancy as much as we can!
I don’t think your suggestion is that far off from where our maternity care is headed unfortunately.
I fear you are right.
Perfect.
I H.A.T.E. WTEWYE!!! The Worst book ever!! If I could buy every copy printed, just to burn them I would…. but they keep printing MORE!!! UGH! I actually received two copies during my first pregnancy.
I advise my clients, friends and random pregnant women at the park to PLEASE not read it!
Loved your post!
Maybe Obama would begin a “Cash for WTEWYE” program, similar to cash for clunkers, as part of the new health care bill. Women could turn in copies of WTEWYE and receive a beautiful new copy of Ina May’s Birth Book instead! Or The Lamaze Guide to Giving Birth With Confidence! Or. . .(I can think of many excellent replacements).
That made me laugh. i cringe every time someone I knows tells me they are reading that book… and then I conveniently forget one of my books at their house next time I am over!
Can we just get over the paranoia that a pregnant woman is so delicate that she is incapable of caring for herself??!! Imagine trying to follow most of this advice when you already have a couple of wild, unsanitary children running around you house interefering with your rest and air quality! Hah!
That’s why it’s so important that all women give birth in a quiet, sterile hospital, away from their unsanitary homes and children.
I am still giggling over the “emergency delivery if you’re alone” bit. Seriously??? “Lie down”????? The most unsafe, painful, unhelpful position in the world – and they want you to do it when you’re alone? Give me a break?
And if you’re feeling well enough to hop over to the neighbor’s house and ask her to catch for you… then baby ain’t comin’ any time soon, LOL!!!
Yes, I don’t know if my first thought when crowning would be to run to the neighbor’s for help–or to lie down, for that matter. It’s been studied and shown that women who are left alone to give birth choose kneeling or squatting positions the most often.
Please, go on! I’ve been reading the copy my step-mom gave me, and it is a trip. If you decide to do WTEWYE, the exercise pages, I have plenty to collaborate.
(i.e., “Don’t Sprint. It uses too much oxygen.” When in fact, sprinting is an ANaerobic activity, AKA, an activity not requiring oxygen.)
I’d love to have a guest post from you. I’ve emailed you separately about this. . .
WTEYWARCP (What to Expect if you want a really Crappy Pregnancy (and birth).
Many giggles but tempered by the fact that SO many women actually read and believe this stuff.
Its amazing that I have 4 exceptionally healthy children given all the stuff I did wrong.
Yup, I have seven healthy kids–all normal, uncomplicated pregnancies. What are the odds?
Wow, I was too lazy to read any books like this when I was pregs. I was proud I at least did my Bradley classes. We called the midwife wat too late for our second (who knew he’d shoot out in less than two hours). I squatted in the shower while pushing by myself, completely instinctual and actually had him 1/2 standing 1/2 squatting since I thought I was going to have to catch him myself (husband was still cluelessly setting up the tub in the living room) fortunately the midwife literally ran in as he was coming out and caught.
Lay on the floor…what awful awful advice.
Well you could have tried lying on the shower floor.
You know, I have always wondered WHAT IN THE WORLD women did before they had books like WTEWYE to tell us what to do when we find ourselves in such an unnatural state such as pregnancy…..
However did any women or babies survive without the amazing help that is offered thru that book?
Yes, it’s amazing that the human race is still here.
Our more popular “baby-factory” OB office gives you a copy of WTEWYE at your first prenatal. It should be a cue to run!
As a pregnant mom growing #6, I gave up on all that worry-you-to-death nonsense long ago. Thanks for the good laugh. Too bad the real books about birth aren’t more well known.